Rachel Wright, L.M.F.T, a marriage and family therapist in New York City says she hears these concerns from her clients all the damn time. Plenty of women are eager to give it a go, but struggle with dirty talk block.
And that's a shame, because embracing dirty talk can improve your relationship: “Sexual arousal happens in the brain as well as the genitals, and dirty talk lets us imagine things that excite us,” explains Ph.D., a California-based sexologist.Dirty talk isn’t always a good thing. If you’re not “all in,” or don’t trust the other person, it's not going to be fun. “Do it if you feel it is true to you; don’t do it because you think others do it and you should try it," says Sara Nasserzadeh, Ph.D., a sexuality and relationship consultant in Palo Alto, California.
Try initiating the convo while you're, say, cozied up on the couch post-movie—not in the bedroom—by simply asking partners what turns them on, or what they like about the porn they watch. This could not only help you avoid an awk situation, but it may even serve as some sexy foreplay.
And talking about your interest in dirty talk is particularly important if one partner is interested in using degrading dialogue, McDevitt says. “Referencing violent fantasies requires a lot of fore-talk, safe words,
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